Your Job Search Is Not Your Worth

Confidence isn’t about believing you’ll get every job. It’s about knowing you’ll be okay when you don’t. Job search can be a strange experience. You can have the skills, the experience, and be well prepared for the interview and still hear: “We’ve decided to move forward with another candidate.” After enough rejection, it’s easy to start questioning yourself. Am I good enough? Is something wrong with my experience? Will I ever find the right opportunity? This is where confidence becomes vital. Confidence during a job search doesn’t mean pretending you have all the answers or assuming you’re the best candidate in every room. It means remembering your value even when someone else doesn’t choose you. It means walking into the next interview without carrying the weight of the last rejection. It means continuing to put yourself out there when the process gets exhausting. Because one company's “no” doesn't erase your skills, your experience, or everything you've accomplished. Don't let a difficult job search convince you that you're not capable. Keep going. Keep learning. Keep showing up. And most importantly, keep believing in the person you're bringing to the table.

I'll do it later." For most people, that's a choice. For someone with ADHD, it can feel like a trap and a challenge. One of the least understood parts of ADHD isn't distraction—it's time blindness. Time doesn't always feel linear. A task due in three weeks can feel just as urgent (or not urgent) as a task due tomorrow. Minutes disappear. Hours vanish. Deadlines seem distant until suddenly they're not. It's not laziness. It's not a poor work ethic. And it's definitely not a lack of caring. Many people with ADHD spend huge amounts of energy trying to manage a clock that their brain experiences differently. What helps? ✅ External reminders instead of relying on memory ✅ Breaking projects into smaller milestones ✅ Artificial deadlines before the real deadline ✅ Visual calendars and timers ✅ Accountability from teammates, friends, or coaches Conversations around ADHD often focus on attention. But for many, managing time is the real daily challenge. Understanding that difference can change how we work and support each other. Have you experienced time blindness yourself, or worked with someone who has?

ADHD procrastination isn't always about avoiding workof. Often, it's the result of overwhelm, perfectionism, uncertainty, or difficulty getting started—not a lack of effort or ambition.

Being neurodivergent is not a death sentence.  It’s not a weakness, a flaw, or something that makes you less capable of success. One of the hardest things I hear from clients with ADHD or who are on the autism spectrum is the belief that they’re somehow “failing at life” because things feel more challenging for them. As an executive function and career coach, I’ve worked with incredibly intelligent and capable people who believed they were lazy, unmotivated, or broken — when in reality, they were trying to function in systems that were never built for the way their brains work. Being neurodivergent doesn't mean you’re incapable of relationships, leadership, or stability. And you're certainly capable of being happy and living a fulfilling life. Many neurodivergent people bring creativity, deep focus, empathy, and outside-the-box thinking to the table. The world needs different minds that have a unique and unconventional perspective. But it also requires extra intention and awareness around executive functioning such as organization, time management, procrastination, etc. Neurodivergent means you may need different tools, different support - and being kind and patient with yourself. I’ve seen clients with ADHD and ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) transform once they no longer measure themselves against neurotypical expectations and begin building strategies that actually work for them. Being neurodivergent is not a death sentence. You are not broken. You just think differently - and that difference has value.

Have you experienced a career setback? I can speak about setbacks because I've had my share of them. Am I proud of them, no. But I'm not ashamed of them. I don't think I'm alone in this. I believe many people have experienced career setbacks - especially in the current employment environment. We're always striving to do our best, to do better and sometimes we don't succeed in spite of our good intentions. Afterall, we're human and quite imperfect. When I've had a setback, I felt like a stalled car on the side of the road waiting to be towed. I'd ask myself, "Why are the other cars moving so fast and effortlessly?" After reflecting, I realized that a setback is not a roadblock but a bump in the road. Maybe it's a signal to pause and take a deeper look at what I could be doing differently. And differently is not necessarily better. Whatever professional and personal shifts I go through, the journey is much easier when I do it with self compassion and kindness. Blaming myself or not forgiving myself for choices I made only complicates a difficult situation. A setback doesn't mean you failed. Just because something didn't work out, doesn't make you a failure. The only way to fail is by giving up. Setbacks are teachers: 🔹an opportunity to call upon your creativity and resourcefulness 🔹guidelines pointing you in a different direction 🔹an opportunity to build inner resilience 🔹a discovery of new interests & strengths you never explored before 🔹expose skill gaps giving clarity around career growth Managing setbacks has been challenging but letting them overcome me is not an option. "Failure is an event, not a person." ~ Zig Ziglar~

I haven't always been confident. I've struggled with confidence much of my life and It was a lot of work. I had to unlearn some negative mental habits that held me back. It isn't handed out like a party favor. Yet, some people seem to have the confidence gene while others work hard to achieve it and that can feel like a job in itself. So, why am I bringing all of this up? If there’s one thing I see holding people back in their job search, it’s not lack of experience—it’s lack of confidence. As a former recruiter and a current career coach, I’ve worked with incredibly qualified professionals in various stages of their career and they often share this one common challenge: they struggled to land interviews or offers, not because they weren’t capable, but because they didn’t communicate their value clearly. And possibly because they couldn't see their own value because they lacked confidence. Confidence in a job search isn’t about being the loudest person in the room. It’s about being able to say, “Here’s what I’ve done, and here’s how I can add to your bottom line" without hesitation. Interestingly, but not surprisingly, people can feel when you exhibit confidence and when it's missing. It shows up in your body like an unwanted guest and it's reflected in your overall presentation (verbal, tone of voice, interest & level of enthuiasm, response to questions).  When confidence is low, people tend to: Undersell their experience Apply only to “safe” roles Freeze or overthink in interviews When confidence is strong, everything shifts. You speak more clearly, you show up with intention, and your potential naturally shines through. And here’s the part I always remind my clients: confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s built—through preparation, practice, and learning how to tell your story effectively. It's a process that takes time, resilience and patience - with oneself. Building self-confidence requires: ❤️ Being your own champion ❤️ Positive actions ❤️ Internal and external resources ❤️ Belief that change is a law of nature ❤️ A receptive heart and mind If your job search isn’t getting results, don’t just rewrite your resume. Take a look at how you’re showing up. Confidence might be the missing piece.

As a career coach, my clients tell me the most difficult part of being a job seeker is managing their feelings of worry, insecurity, and isolation. For some, staying positive is easier than others. As a person with anxiety, I work overtime to stay positive. It takes effort and mindfulness but it certainly can be done. When negative thoughts start to spiral into rumination, I take time out to meditate. That's what helps me. Doing what's necessary to get to a more positive mental state looks different for everyone. Some people find that exercising, spending time in nature, practicing gratitude, and.pursuing creative hobbies are helpful ways to foster more positivity. Being mindful of good self care, acceptance, self-affirming rituals, networking, and surrounding oneself with positive and supportive people are some great psychological tools and specific things job seekers can do to manage the job seeking/career transition effectively. I'm aware that making changes in our behavior and mindset don't always happen as quickly as we'd like. We're all a bundle of habits which is our human nature. It's important to be gentle and kind with yourself when trying to change a habit you've had over a lifetime for a healthier habit that will result in more positive outcomes. Often, it's having resilience and not giving up - this too is a practice and doing a little something every day is better than doing nothing at all. One step at a time... The energy that you bring to an interview and beyond is palpable and often is the first and last impression an interviewer is left with. If you have a positive mindset, you're more likely to leave a positive impression, getting you closer to a positive outcome. If you're a current job seeker or in a career transition and are struggling to maintain a positive image and attitude, contact me at lrcareercoach@gmail.com to learn about my coaching program that can help you get on the right track to a more fulfilling and successful career. "A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty." ~ Winston Churchill

Looking for a job is a job in itself. There's research, networking, resume tweaking, job applications, interviewing, follow up, waiting for an offer, more follow up, negotiating the offer......and on and on.... Have I left anything out? Perhaps, ruminating about all of it? It's exhausting just thinking about the entire and daunting process of job/career search. Does any of this resonate with you? If you're one of those rare people who have had one job your entire career, you've been spared what some consider hair raising. If you're offered a job and done your due diligence, you'll ask yourself (before you accept) Is their mission statement aligned with my values? Can I relate to the people I'll be working and collaborating with or do they seem like aliens? Will my talent and skills be recognized and appreciated? Does this role allow for continued learning and skill development? Will the style of management be conducive to productivity to thrive and enjoy career satisfaction? Is there a culture that supports transparency and open dialogue? Company culture is VERY important when considering an offer. Ask yourself, "what are my wants and needs that will bring me career satisfaction and success?" This question/self reflection can be very helpful when making career decisions. Ask yourself if you'll be out of your element or does this feel like a comfortable shoe that "fits". (as much as possible in a new position). If your gut tells you it's not comfortable, find yourself another pair of shoes. "Company culture is the silent language that echoes loudest in an organization's halls" ~ Enamul Hague ~

For some, a job interview is enough to make your skin crawl. As a career coach who has conducted hundreds of mock interviews, I find.this to be too often the case. I consider an interview like a first date (without the flirtatious looks). However, many interviews are not in-person or virtual. Sometimes a preliminary interview is conducted over the phone which has its pros and cons. An in-person/virtual interview allows the person being interviewed (interviewee?) the advantage of reading and picking up the interviewer's facial and body cues (and vice versa). Obviously, this is not something one can do over the phone. If you're good at "reading" voices, the phone interview might work well for you. Here's the big HOWEVER: treat the phone interview as the real deal. Be prepared to be asked the same kind of questions that might be asked of you in an in-person/virtual interview. I believe it's better to be over prepared than ill prepared. Wishing you many opportunities and good luck in your journey! PHONE INTERVIEW TIPS (a few) Be clear who is making the call and at what time Schedule a time you know you'll have privacy and adequate time to talk Speak where there are no distractions and noise (TV, human beings, pets) Have your resume in front of you (this is an advantage over the face to face interview) Take notes (only if you're good at multitasking) - another advantage over face to face Send thank you via email Consider an interview the most formal date you'll ever have. “I believe luck is preparation meeting opportunity. If you hadn’t been prepared when the opportunity came along, you wouldn’t have been lucky.” ~ Oprah Winfrey ~